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The first cries of your baby amid resounding demands to push; worn out, sweaty and as ungraceful as you will ever be--you are now a mother-a parent-a reality which will stay with you forever.
From the secure, warm and dark womb, your child makes the most difficult and trying journey to be born.
A 36 week old child makes this journey all on its own!
From the time it was conceived it grew miraculously. Legs,arms,torso,eyes,ears,nose,mouth,tongue,fingers,nails,toes,brain,hair,heart,organs… the whole lot was completed in 36 weeks-and above all the body parts,-a Soul.
A new human soul is born.
An individuality of it’s own.
A whole new person is born.
It is believed that, the soul of an unborn child, chooses the set of parents who are going to be carriers for it, to come into the world. This choice is based on the life lessons it needs to learn in order to progress in it’s journey in spiritual evolution.
You became the blessed carriers of that soul.
To me soulful parenting is all about allowing the child to stay connected with the soul it came with, and help it evolve through the various stages of the journey, and learn important lessons.
The reason your child’s soul chose you, is so you can help him/her in learning those lessons well.
The great Persian poet , Khalil Gibran, in his famous book, 'The Prophet' says, and I quote ,
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit,
Not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies,
So He loves also the bow that is stable.
That my child is essentially his own person, that I am the instrument chosen by divinity to develop him to the best he can become- was a profound realisation which hit me the day I became a parent.
I love him completely, as all parents love their children; however my basis of bringing him up has been on the basis of this realisation. That he must be his own person.
As the years have gone by, I find that as I have worked with this awareness, my child who is now in his 15th year, is very much his own person.
The last 15 years have gone by without any stress of being a parent. It’s just been the most gratifying&joyful job I have and am doing.
It’s this journey , with my own experience of Soulful Parenting which I will try and share with you as we go along.Equally taking in what you may have to share.
Hopefully something in my experience and in your's will resound ,as we share, and we can be together in this journey of parenting-helping our children in becoming who they are meant to be.
